
As a young adult, I tend to put a lot of time into my work, definitely more than the average 40 hour work week. When I'm not working, I'm probably sleeping. Honestly, dating hasn't been a priority.
If you didn't know, Taylor and I broke up a few months back. Since then, I've been focusing on myself, my friends, my new job, and my new city, all of which is going great.
In recent weeks, I've slowly been putting myself back out there. Thanks to dating apps, I don't have to go too far. Finding a guy to chat with me is as easy a "swiping right". Each dating site it a little different, so I joined them all.
Someone told me "there is no such thing as a bad date, just a good story". And lucky for you, I'm willing to share all my stories online.
I'm not going to tell you all of the details right now because I want to leave a little mystery for future blog posts. I will admit that I have no shame in going out on first dates with multiple men, mostly because I have a trend of not getting second dates. It doesn't make me sad though, it just proves that they aren't what I'm looking for. What am I looking for? I'll know it when I see it.

I seriously could write a blog series solely on my Tinder adventures. My last long-term relationship started with some tacky pick up lines on Tinder. I've also had guys (who I didn't even match with) follow me home from college football games, only to have the cops called on them for stalking.
Recently, I have using Tinder to work on my pick up lines. Occasionally, I'll find a gem and we will meet for lunch or coffee or drinks and after one date, he'll realize that he "really doesn't want to settle down yet" and I'll never hear from him again. Such is life.

I find the guys on Bumble to be better looking than Tinder (sorry, not sorry). Sending the first message does give me mixed emotions though... I have to say something witty enough for him to respond to, but he may or may not see it in time. I feel like I've come across my future husband on Bumble, but he didn't know it.

I feel like I'm kinda picky. If you know me, you know that guys with kids are turn offs for me. But for some reason, I let myself go out with a guy from OKCupid that had a 9-year old. No, I did not meet this child. The first date went well, but conversation slowly fizzled out when we realized we genuinely had nothing in common, which I should have realized from our Match %.
One of the good things about OKCupid is that you can put some basic filters on your inbox for free. This way, if someone who doesn't have a high Match % or an inactive profile tries to contact me, I won't see if unless I go to my filtered inbox. You have to pay for other filters (like blocking guys who state on their profile that they have kids, or people who just message saying "hi").
Okay, Cupid, give me something good or I'll be deactivating my account soon.

When I first got this app, I connected with a guy in my first week. I thought we were hitting it off. Then he stopped responding, the chat closed and I didn't get his contact information. My loss I guess. Honestly, I feel like no one actually uses this app, so it's kinda pointless, at least for me.


You can only like 10 people per day without paying, but 10 seems to be enough for me. The conversations I've been having are great, too. You are forced to find things to connect over, whether it's one of the questions they answered or something in one of the pictures. Everything on the profile can be a conversation starter if you make it one. I'll keep this app around, even if it doesn't turn the most results.

I am seriously shocked at the number of people that use this app, since I had never heard of it. While not all of the people I've matched with are local (one of the downsides is that people outside of your radius can see you), I do have a date or two in the works. Fingers crossed that they don't end up like my Tinder dates.

While I have been lucky and haven't been catfished yet, I am very careful with what information I disclose online and what people can find out about me. The internet is a public place and once information is out there, it's out there forever, so please use caution when utilizing online dating websites and apps.
Have you ever used a dating app? Have any stories you want to share? Comment below!

ReplyDeleteHaha I don’t miss online dating. Tinder is one of those apps. I would get so annoyed and then bored and get back on it.
You should read about my dating adventures: http://www.allthethingsido.com/thoughts-girls-have-online-dating/
I am no longer in the dating game, but I had no idea that there were so many dating sites!
ReplyDeleteThere are so many more.. I just picked the ones that I thought would appeal to me.
DeleteI did try online dating a few years ago. Christian Mingle brought me a few dates, but ultimately I found it wasn't for me. I was proud of myself for giving it a shot though. Good luck Victoria! It's wonderful that you're putting yourself out there!
ReplyDeleteHahaha this is hilarious! My boyfriend and I actually met on Bumble :-x.... and we've been happily together for 9 months now :)
ReplyDeleteI've never used any dating apps but I'm enjoying your stories about them.
ReplyDeleteoooooh great post, I've used Tinder recently and find it a little vain, I swipe left A LOT hahaha. But, I have met a nice guy on there recently... So let's see how it goes! If it doesn't work out, Bumble sounds interesting. Thanks for sharing
ReplyDeleteI met my current boyfriend online! OkCupid to be exact! Two years later, we're going strong for sure! I've never really tried the others but they all sound interesting.
ReplyDeleteYeah, I'd tried like mostly all of these apps! But to get this clear, there is no such thing as online dating addiction to me :D It's just because I like to find new friends all over the world and over me as well, but IRL I'm too shy to run into person in public and start a little chit-chat) So most of these are pretty cool, but all the cool features are limited for free users, so now I stick to this free video chat online https://coomeet.com/en Moreover, there is a thing that I especially like with the video chat, it's that you always see person you're talking to, it feels kind of more convenient to me)
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